Tall Order

I have an anonymous text-friend. Sa dialect: txtm8.

I don’t know his name, age, address, profession, or even how he got my number. But, because he piqued my interest and gave me stimulating intellectual discussion (Read: He has a lot of ideas I enjoy dissecting and contradicting.) I decided not to zap him with my deadly sarcasm and instead gave him the chance to bask in the light of my wisdom.

This decision did not disappoint me. I found him to be a good grinding stone on which I could sharpen my resolve on a few beliefs and clarify uncertainties on several points. Not to mention the fact that I derive immense satisfaction in donning my Scary-Strong-Woman persona when I talk to him. (hihihi)

In fact, here are my thoughts and reactions to our discourse on relationships, love, and commitment:

1. You don’t fall in love unknowingly. Pero tamad at duwag lang talaga ang tao, some can’t take responsibility for themselves kaya nirarason na lang kung ano-ano.

2. Lumalabas ang pagiging psychologist ko at umiiral ang cognitive-affective leanings ko when I talk about human behavior during what most romantically refer to as “being in love” or “falling out of love”. Take the following statements he sent me:

a. “Feelings change”: TRUE
b. “Sometimes no matter how much you stop the feeling it just grows stronger. You just can’t deny or take for granted what you really feel.”: FALSE (boo!)

3. People make mistakes when they give in to their weakness. Kaya, naghahanap ako ang lalaking matatag din sa puso at isipan. May nahanap at nakilala na akong mga lalaking ganito. Kaya nga lang ay may mga pag-ibig na sa buhay at kailangang respetuhin ang kanilang choice.

4. People who don’t know, not to mention like themselves, generally don’t know how to accept, let alone love, other people. Ika nga, “You can’t give what you don’t have.”

5. Idealist ako when it comes to the subject of love and commitment. Trust, honesty, and respect are words you have to learn and live by when you go into any relationship. Take note, this is true for all relationships.

6. I fervently believe that relationships can only work with a lot of hard work. It’s not always pretty, happy, or agreeable. It takes conscious effort, a lot of appreciation, compromise, and less whining, criticism, and excuses.

7. Wala akong pasensya sa mga taong kayang ipagtanggol ang sarili nila by just saying “I couldn’t help it. ‘Di ko mapigilan ang sarili ko.” Wattah!

8. Kung kaya nang lalaki maging taksil, kaya rin ni babae. Mas socially acceptable lang ang una kesa sa pangalawa. At karamihan sa mga lalaki ay hindi ito kayang tanggapin o aminin. Mas mainam na makahanap nang lalaking alam ito, para hindi siya magkamaling i-take for granted ang pagtingin ni babae.

Hmmnn… I’m getting all worked up. Eto na lang. Kung interesado kayong maki-txt sa anonymous friend ko narito and ilang detalye tungkol sa kanya: (veracity unknown)

· Ang pangalan niya sa phonebook ko ay “Prayer”. He used to send me prayers
during the first month he txted me. Walang palya, kaya yun na ang pinangalan ko sa kanya.

· He’s a he. Nabisto ko siya nang muntik na akong awayin nang magpasaring akong baka me boyfriend s’ya. Buti na lang at dinaan niya sa tawa. (hyuk hyuk hyuk) Guys are so predictable when their manhood is threatened. Tsk!

· He lives and works in Iloilo. Sa Miagao ang hometown niya.

· May girlfriend siya pero nag-break na raw sila. (?)

· Hindi ko gusto ang choice niya nang forwarded txt joke na una niyang binigay sakin. Doon ko nasigurado na lalaki nga siya. Read between the lines.

· He doesn’t want to give me his name so I have a dark suspicion that I know or have met him somewhere. Mokong talaga!

· Ang cellphone number n’ya ay: 09107827926. Kung kilala niyo ang taong ito… regards na lang sa kanya. Nyahahaha.

I do wonder how I get these mysterious text friends. He’s actually the 3rd one whose exhibited similar beliefs about the subject. I find it irritating and sad at the same time that they could hold such misconceptions about things that I thought were so obvious. And all these texters arrived right after I broke up with my last boyfriend. What is it? Do I have a sign lit up across the universe that says “Recently broke-up. Ask about lessons learned from the experience”???

As if!

Break-up with your own boyfriend or girlfriend! Then invite me to talk about your experience!

>:p